bf doesnt kow what he wants

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Registered: 02-20-2004
bf doesnt kow what he wants
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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 11:23am
My bf and I have been together for 4 years. it has been the best 4 year ever, until now...! form the begining of the relationship, he knew what he wanted. He always told me that we would be together (married, kids, everything) that he could never hurt me. He would have giving me the world if he could.

About a month ago, he told me he's not sure of what he wants anymore. He says he loves me, but doesnt know if he wants to be with me. That crushed me, he was the strength in the relationship, he knew what he wanted before I did.

I know in my heart that he is the one for me, and I want to be with him for the rest of my life. At times I feel like giving up, just ending it and if he want to come back later he knows where to find me, but he's not ready for me to give up.

He loves me now, but not like he used to, and I still love him completely. eventhough it's been the hardest month ever. I feel like I'm giving all of myself, but not getting the love I need in return.

WHAT SHOULD I DO? Should I wait for his decision? Should I put an end to the relationship?

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 1:51pm
He can fall in love again if he's willing to invest the time and effort to help him figure out why his feelings changed in the frist place.


Reading material to consider:

How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love by Sue Ellen Page

A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman

Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix

Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw

His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr

The 10 Second Kiss, Ellen Kreidman

Loving Solutions, Gary Chapman


Carrie