BF wants X fiance to move in w/us
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| Tue, 01-13-2004 - 2:01pm |
My BF, after a disagreement, called his EX fiance ( who is dying to see me out of the picture) to ask her if she would stay in our apartment while I am in the hospital getting surgery for 4 days.
He said he did it out of anger,but then also claiming that he didnt want to leave the apt alone while he was away for a residency and while I was in the hospital.
We have TONS AND TONS of people who would watch our apt, but he actually CALLED her and she said yes! NOW WHAT?!? I dont want this woman in my house.. sleeping in my bed!
What should I be angry about here.. the fact he called her? the fact he is ignoring my feelings about her and her constant invasion into our relationship that has now come to the point that she will be in my home while I am in the hospital?
Advice .. PLEASE!!!!!!!

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Even if you had a fight, his reaction is absolutely unjustifiable. Plus, he has no right to decide who watches your apt without consulting you. He messed up, he fixes it. I'd tell him to call back the ex, apologize to her (...), and tell her that he does not need her moving in. Or, he is an ex boyfriend. Period. You deserve a lot better than someone who, instead of being caring and supportive when you are on the point of a hospital stay, does such an insensitive thing. Geeesh. He should grovel for months!
Put your foot down, woman!!!
Deena, you have GOT to be kidding me!!!
I felt so upset about the whole thing earlier.. thinking that I was going to have to contend with this woman who would be sleeping on my sheets. (By the way, did I mention that this is no ordinary woman..He considered her THE ONE for years)
If he doesnt gravel and tries to turn the whole situation around on me to make it seem that I am the problem here... I think I am going to go BALLASTIC on him!!!!!
It will be the eye-opener to this relationship and its possible downfall.
I will post later on tonight to let everyone know the outcome here.. For all I know right now, I might be going into surgery knowing that I need to find a place to live when I get home.
Lissa
He obviously isn't over her if he tells you that she was the one.
Is he really worth the effort?
*hugs*
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