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bfriend's ex wife ok, ex girl problem
| Mon, 06-11-2007 - 3:18pm |
i have been dating a single dad for the past 2 years... his ex wife does not convolute our relationship in anyway. i respect their relationship and her relationship with the kids. however, his ex girlfriend of 3 years, whom he dislikes, spends time with his children, particularly his daughter, 17 yrs old, and eldest adopted son, 24 yrs old. she even creates "family dinner" nights for the kids, which if she was the ex wife would make perfect sense to me.
am i crazy or is it a bit bizarre for an ex girlfriend to hold on to the family with such gusto?
how do i handle this situation without feeling like a complete outsider?
am i crazy or is it a bit bizarre for an ex girlfriend to hold on to the family with such gusto?
how do i handle this situation without feeling like a complete outsider?

Welcome to the board sashaluciana,
I do think it is a little unusual. Does she try to do things with your bf or involve him in these "family dinners"? What is his opinion about this?
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Hi sashaluciana and welcome to the board,
It is kind of odd to me.
Does your bf attend these 'family dinners'?
it makes it difficult for me, after being involved with this man and his family for 2 years, to feel that this woman is more accepted in the core family than i despite my positive relationship with the kids. if it was his ex wife i would understand completely.
he has gone from being frustrated to hurt as he feels disrespected by the kids and wonders about loyalty issues as a dad. finally he just threw up his hands saying, "what can one do?".
he does empathize with my situation. which i am thankful for. for a year and a half i have let this all go, as it didnt threaten me. seems recently to be getting a bit out of hand, and am feeling threatened and competitive regarding the kids and the family as a whole, which is the last way i want to feel, let alone act on.