Bf's mentally unstable ex gf
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|Thu, 06-05-2003 - 3:16pm|
I really need good advise from anybody who think they will be able to help me. I am at a point where I am getting desperate.
I love my bf very very much.. we've been together for 4 months..but we have a huge problem and he is not dealing with it at all.. and I think in time it will cause us to split up if I don't try to do something. I don't want to use drastic measures like the police.. I just want to resolve it peacefully.
My bf had a friend who he knew for about a year or so.. this was little more than a year ago.. after a few months she "forced" him into a relationship with him.. that's how he put it. She came out of a very unstable home and suffers from depression and is on anti-depressants on a daily basis and she gets panic attacks. She built her whole life around him, cause she didn't have any support system from either friends or family.. was abused as a child etc. He was and still is everything she has. She has tried to commit suicide several times in the past every time he tried to leave her, she would call him and tell him she is going to take an overdose pills and he had to rush her to hospital to get her stomach pumped.. or she tried to slash her wrists. This emotional torture went on for months. She lost her job, ran out of money and stayed with him for a while.. he had to pay for her medication cause she kept drinking way too much of it to help her cope and eventually ran out of pills. He decided that he is going to leave her, even if she tries to do something stupid again.. he couldn't handle it anymore. But the problem is, that eventhough they broke up more than a year ago, she still calls him about 6 times a day, and when she is lonely about twice as many times.. about every hour.. It drives me crazy.. he told me that he told her about me and that she tried to slash her wrists again, but I asked him the same question again, cause every time she would phone, he would talk to her in another room and not in front of me, and he admitted that he only told her that he met someone, and nothing else.. not that he had a serious gf or anything. He tells me that he has NO feelings for her. I am soooo scared.. what if she tries to harm him if he tells her about me.. or even harm me.. if the thought of her losing him gets too much and she doesn't want to "share" him.. I am really scared. I don't know what she is capable of. What can he do to "get rid" of her? I can't cope with this anymore. She is destroying our relationship.. please help me.