BF's younger brother
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BF's younger brother
| Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:33pm |
I have been dating my bf for almost 4 years now and he lives next door to me. We are going to get married within the next two years. We love each other very much and I enjoy being with him but there is a big burden in this relationship. That's his younger brother. He is 28-29 years old but he lives in my bf's shadow. This guy has no friends of his own and can't decide on anything by himself. He likes me as a person but he doesn't like me as his brother's girlfriend, like alone, his wife. Sometimes he is demeaning to me and tries to get rid of my presence so he can have brotherly time with my bf. Of course my bf does not see any of this, he thinks his brother is very nice to me. I have always been very courteous and nice to his brother. I think that I have been very understanding too, every other weekend, I tell my bf that he should go out with his brother, hang out or do something. I certainly don't think that I take up all his time. However, the truth is, deep in my heart, I hate this guy. I don't like his personality at all. Although he is useless, he thinks that he is God's gift to women and that he is all that. If he wasn't my bf's brother, I would never want to associate with a guy like him. I know that if I am going to be with my bf for the rest of my life, I am going to have to deal with this brother of his forever. Does anyone else out there with this problem? How do I cope? I don't want to get to a point where I say something mean to him because he is also someone who holds a grudge forever. Sometimes I don't even want to go to my bf's house or to hang out with him if I know his brother is there.

Carrie
I think you HAVE to talk to your boyfriend. It will be hard I know. But can you keep something so important from your best friend for the rest of your life?