A big mess-is there any hope?
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A big mess-is there any hope?
| Sun, 10-21-2007 - 1:29pm |
Hi all,
My bf and I have been together for 3.5 years. We broke up (he broke up with me)
| Sun, 10-21-2007 - 1:29pm |
Hi all,
My bf and I have been together for 3.5 years. We broke up (he broke up with me)
Welcome to the board wind1valley,
Rebuilding trust takes time and healing the betrayal takes time and effort for both of you.
I dont believe he'd consider counseling. It's just hard because some days he is great; loving,caring etc and the next he can go to utter indifference when it comes to our relationship. The indifference is what worries me, as they say, the opposite of love isnt hate, it's indifference.
Well, you did lie to him, even if you think it was "partly" the truth. And really, it's not right for you to keep the number of a guy you've hooked up with. You knew it would make your boyfriend upset. That's why you lied.
But the damage is done. I think you should ask your boyfriend if he thinks he can realistically forgive you and move on from this. If the answer, after six weeks, is "no" then maybe you shouldn't be together?
I dont think 6 weeks is that long of a time...I cant really expect him to forgive me in that amount of time and just act as if nothing happened. I dont really know how long to give him on this b/c it breaks my heart when we fight about it. We havent fought about the situation
If I'm not mistaken, you've had honesty issues in the past