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| Sun, 12-16-2007 - 11:39pm |
I have a problem that I need some advice on. First of all you have to kinda know the story to understand but I will make it short. I was supposed to get married this in May 08 but it didn't work ( we were together 3 years) and he turned crazy!! I mean so crazy that I had to get a restraining order on him, and change jobs. But if that wasn't enough I just found out a week ago that I am pregnant with his child. See I already have one child that I raise by myself, and honestly he was a great dad to my child (no the its not his child) but he treated my child like it was his own. See I'm not sure what I need to do because he has some heart problems and I know some of his medical history but not all of it, and my doctor said its important to know exactly what problems he has, so we can know more about if it will effect the baby. But I'm not sure if I should tell him, because I know then he would want to be around then. I don't really want to raise a child without him/her knowing their father, but he has a lot of issues that I cant deal with (drugs,drinking) I spent a lot of time and money trying to keep him away from me now I find this out.

Welcome to the board cutie124,
If you just found out your pg, how far along are you? Because you are making it seem like you haven't had contact with him in awhile, but that you just found out you are pg.
I really think it messes with a child if they go up never getting to know one of their parents. But then again if he has drug problems he wouldn't be a good influence. This is really your decision to make.
But if you don't want him to know he is the father, you will never be able to get child custody or welfare for the child because in both cases they make you tell who the father of the child is.
Personally, I don't think it's right for a man not to know he has a child.
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If you got a restraining order against him why would you endanger your child around him?
Welcome to the board cutie124,
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