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Big Problem..Advice Please
| Thu, 09-20-2007 - 12:40pm |
I found some documents, accidentally, in a folder that my boyfriend asked me to get some papers out of.
| Thu, 09-20-2007 - 12:40pm |
I found some documents, accidentally, in a folder that my boyfriend asked me to get some papers out of.
Welcome to the board nxsotic1,
In my opinion, he would not have printed off the list and made notications on it if he trusted you.
He said that your actions don't match your words. Do you think there is any truth to that?
I woudn't break up over this issue. Continue with the relationship and watch for any signs that he doesn't trust you.
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Welcome to the board nxsotic1,
While he gave you reasons for his behavior (printing them off, making notes, not talking to you), I'd be concerned as you are about the incident.
Yes, let this go. He hasn't done anything terrible. He simply felt a bit unloved and confused and was trying to figure out why he had these feelings. Everyone makes mistakes. He hasn't accused you or hurt you. He was simply trying to work something out on his own. You say he showed you loved these past weeks, (and I assume in general) , he hasn't been abusive, and so, it seems to me you should not dwell on this. Instead, it would be a good thing to have open, honest discussions on a regular basis when feelings come up. If he feels unloved, then he needs to learn to feel safe enough to express these feelings to you. And you need to be able to express your feelings for him, so he can feel more secure. It's not such a big deal. All couples have to communicate regularly and honestly and not criticize each other for the communication, but listen and honor what they hear. They trust builds naturally and confusion decreases.
Best wishes,
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