The Bird Bath incident!

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Registered: 12-28-2007
The Bird Bath incident!
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Sun, 07-13-2008 - 3:09pm

I should be happy.

Missy

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 6:32pm

You make it pretty clear that it is he who prevents you from spending more time together and confining you to a "weekend relationship". Do you think the he feels as serious about you as you do him? Do you feel as though you have been together long enough to know that he's "the one" or not?

Perhaps he is keeping his distance because it is the only defense he has against your anger toward him.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 9:10pm

Well, he is the one who talks about marriage, and living together...even tonight at our AA meeting...he was like, when we live together.....you are going to not give these kids all the money you give them.


Recently, He was all proud when we got a wedding invitation addressed to BOTH of us...he wanted me to put it in a keepsake file, I have.


He doesn't have a balance, if you will,

Missy
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 10:10pm
Gotta say... Of course marriage looks good to him, when he gets to spend all his time fishing and only has to spend 2-3 hours a week with you! That would be a dream to many guys :P
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 10:57am

You said - "I want it to be all about me...I've waited so long...for it to be all about me"


If this is truly a top priority for you, then clearly this man is the wrong man for you.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 6:45pm

Respectively spice man, the man spends 2-3 hours a week with me!

Missy
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 7:19pm
I understand that he told you at the outset that fishing was his priority, and asked if you were all right with that, but now you have developed feelings for one another, and it's reasonable to expect his priorities to change as well. If you have asked for more time and he has turned you down, you need to recognize that this is the way he likes things, and this is all you're going to get. It's not surprising that you don't like it (hard to imagine who would, in fact), but he's showing you what your relationship will be like as long as you're together.
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Registered: 12-28-2007
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 9:08pm

UGH...Bad answer.

Missy

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