birthday

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 9:12pm

how upset would you be if your boyfriend left town on your first birthday together.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
In reply to: jw2211
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 9:42pm
It would depend on how close we were and the nature of the relationship - how serious it was.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
In reply to: jw2211
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 9:58pm

This may be an early clue as to how he will handle other things during the course of your relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: jw2211
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 10:58pm

Welcome to the board jw2211,


At two months into the relationship, I wouldn't be upset.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-1999
In reply to: jw2211
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 1:00am
If you have only been together for two months, then his family SHOULD be the priority over the relationship. I don't think he should blow off people who have cared for him his entire life for a new relationship if they want to celebrate his birthday with him. I think it was very sweet for him to think to send flowers. Also, he still celebrated the birthday on another day. I see no reason at all to be upset with the situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
In reply to: jw2211
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 5:51am
Yes, I agree, I am intensely curious as to what that means also.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2008
In reply to: jw2211
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 6:40am

Hello,


I do not think you should be upset all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: jw2211
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 8:12am

I agree with the other posters that you should not be upset. It's his birthday weekend too, and his family wants to see him. Completely normal. And, you've only been going out for two months, which is too short to start compromising on the whole family thing, imo.

He sent flowers and took you out for dinner, which was really nice of him. You should focus on that!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: jw2211
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 8:58am

I won't tell you what you can and cannot get upset over, but this is a very early relationship and it's unreasonable to expect to be someone's first priority when you have just barely started dating. Getting upset over something is a choice and I don't believe this one is worth any grief.

There will be other birthdays.