birthday issue
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| Tue, 02-19-2008 - 7:18pm |
my girlfriend and i dated for 6 months. were both 25. i
never thought i did anything wrong, and she never told me i did anything
wrong. a week before it ended, she was telling me how much she liked me,
and then she just ended it, saying she didn't feel the same way about
me as i did about her. this was strange to me. i have one question.
1. our birthdays were on back to back days and came 2 months into the
relationship. she asked me to drive home with her to her family for
our birthdays. i had just finished my school semester, and told her that
my parents wanted me to go home and see them for my birthday, since i
don't see them that much. she lives a 2 hour drive away, i live in
another state.
while i was at home, i sent her a dozen roses on her birthday, and then
when i came back, we went out to dinner for our birthdays. i also
brought her back a few t-shirts and a clock which i thought she would
like, and i let her know that i didn't just buy them at the airport, and
that they weren't birthday presents. she never ended up wearing the
shirts, and when i asked about the clock, she would give me a disapproving
look.
before i left, she would always ask me what i wanted for my birthday,
and she was all into the relationship. she didn't end up getting me
anything for my birthday, and when i came back, she sort of seemed a little
different than she was before.
i went away to go work for 6 weeks in the middle of our relationship.
when i got back, i brought her some expensive sunglasses. when i told
i got her a gift, she asked 'why'. i told her because i felt as though
i didn't get her a real present for her birthday.
do you see anything in this birthday and present issue that could have
suddenly changed her feelings for me? would she be really upset that i
left, and would she be upset with just the flowers? could this have
affected how she felt about me? we did end up dating for 4 more months after this.

Welcome to the board jim1502008,
Sending flowers was a wonderful gift.