birthday issue

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Registered: 01-30-2008
birthday issue
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 7:18pm

my girlfriend and i dated for 6 months. were both 25. i
never thought i did anything wrong, and she never told me i did anything
wrong. a week before it ended, she was telling me how much she liked me,
and then she just ended it, saying she didn't feel the same way about
me as i did about her. this was strange to me. i have one question.

1. our birthdays were on back to back days and came 2 months into the
relationship. she asked me to drive home with her to her family for
our birthdays. i had just finished my school semester, and told her that
my parents wanted me to go home and see them for my birthday, since i
don't see them that much. she lives a 2 hour drive away, i live in
another state.

while i was at home, i sent her a dozen roses on her birthday, and then
when i came back, we went out to dinner for our birthdays. i also
brought her back a few t-shirts and a clock which i thought she would
like, and i let her know that i didn't just buy them at the airport, and
that they weren't birthday presents. she never ended up wearing the
shirts, and when i asked about the clock, she would give me a disapproving
look.

before i left, she would always ask me what i wanted for my birthday,
and she was all into the relationship. she didn't end up getting me
anything for my birthday, and when i came back, she sort of seemed a little
different than she was before.

i went away to go work for 6 weeks in the middle of our relationship.
when i got back, i brought her some expensive sunglasses. when i told
i got her a gift, she asked 'why'. i told her because i felt as though
i didn't get her a real present for her birthday.

do you see anything in this birthday and present issue that could have
suddenly changed her feelings for me? would she be really upset that i
left, and would she be upset with just the flowers? could this have
affected how she felt about me? we did end up dating for 4 more months after this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: jim1502008
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 12:30am

Welcome to the board jim1502008,


Sending flowers was a wonderful gift.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2007
In reply to: jim1502008
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:04pm
It sounds like she's a little cold hearted, actually. What you did was really nice and beyond what you had to do. If that's not good enough for her, move on. Forget her. Sounds like she isn't worth it after all. That's hard to think, I know, but it's better to cut your losses now and find someone who truly appreciates your kindness. Good luck!