the blues

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Registered: 03-29-2004
the blues
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:09pm
well i dont no where to begin but i will try to keep it short. I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year, she is 40 years old and i am 32 years old. The problem i have is i dont know what a real relationship is supposed to be. I have been in 3 previous relationships which have gone sour. I dont know if my girlfriend is going through a change or depression. She is tired all the time, mentally and physically, she tells me she has no need for sex at the moment , when we cuddle or kiss there is not excitement from her. She lies at the furtherest point of the bed well away from me becuase she is worried that i want sex. She gets very irritable at me and the kids, she doesent bother with anyone. Her personal grooming has deteriated, she has a hard time getting undressed in front of me. she used to go out a lot with friends and me but now shes not interested. she couldent be bothered doing anything around the house anymore. I try to hug and kiss her as much as possible to reasure her i love her.Its just like she has given up on everything in her life. Please help me figure this out as it is driving me crazy because i love her so much.


tired of this

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: moose55
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:51pm
moose55...

You sound like a very understanding b/f....but you need to do 2 things:

1. Make her take a shower

2. Get her to a therapist

Her problems could be connected to practically ANYTHING...from depression to change of life...to the realization that her feelings for you might be fading!

Wish I could be more encouraging. But for your sanity (and hers)...get some outside help, okay?

Pianoguy