Borderline personality disorder Help!

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Borderline personality disorder Help!
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 7:25am
Hello everyone,

I posted about a month ago - got lots of great advice and support. Thank you to all of you.

I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of 5 years has BPD. I know this isn't the right forum for this kind of discussion, but maybe someone out there has experience with this?? or can direct me to an online support group?

I would appreciate it so much. I've always wondered what was wrong with our relationship - and now I may be able to take the right direction with some help

Thanks again in advance

Merignac

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 1:05pm


Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder by Richard A. Moskovitz M.D.

New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder: Your Friendly, Authoritative Guide to the Latest in Traditional and Complementary Solutions by Neil R. Bockian

The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Randi Kreger, James Paul Shirley



The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders : An Interactive Self-Help Guide by Ph.D. Joseph Santoro

Sometimes I Act Crazy : Living with Borderline Personality Disorder by Jerold J. Kreisman, Harold Straus

I don't know of a support group.


Edited 8/3/2004 1:06 pm ET ET by itwinflame


Carrie

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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 2:52pm
Hello,

I would suggest reading Stop Walking on Egg Shells, It has really helped me to understand, and I have not even finished reading it yet.

Here is a news group that is for people that are planning on staying with their Bordline Line Personality S/O

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/WTOStaying/


Good Luck

Holly

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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:53pm
Thank you to both of you for your replies and for the numerous suggestions of resourses.

Ironically, I've ordered the "Walking on Eggshells..." book and am anxiously awaiting its delivery.

Are you currently involved with a BPD, Holly or are you just reading the book to expand your knowledge?

I tried the link to the website you suggested but it didn't work. Maybe because I'm trying from France and the Internet is iffy in the countryside here.

I could sure use some words of hope as I've feel as though I've been living through hell the last 5 years. At least now I know what I'm dealing with, but my esteem, my inner strength, my spirit are at an all time low. I have never felt such emptiness and lack of hope. Maybe it's too late, but even if it is, atleast I know WHY I have had such immense difficulties the past 5 years with this man. Thank God for that.

Anyway, thank you both for the trouble. Again, I appreciate your help!

Merignac

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Registered: 05-18-2003
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 10:05am
Merignac,

Below is some more information that I found. You can subscribe, via that email address.

I believe that my husband is BPD. I did a lot of research, because I knew that something just was not right and came up with BPD.

I know what you are going through!! and just having someone say hey I understand can make the world of difference. We live in our own little hell. I have always felt like I was on a roller coaster, but you never know if its going to go up or down!

The book Stop Walking on Egg Shells will let give you a peak into their world. It will also teach you that you can not change them, we can only change how we relate to them.

I no longer will shoulder his anger and rages, when he gets like that I just walk away, tell him I am sorry that he is anger, but I am not and I am not accepting his anger. It actually does help, the rages are shorter and he does now apologies after ( well most of the time).

If you would like to have someone to email to be a shoulder and listen, and let you know, yeah you are not alone in this you can email me at hollym@support.bright.net


Holly


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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 10:24am

BPD is a disorder which requires