Bored and Frustrated

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Bored and Frustrated
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 2:13am


My bf and I have been together for almost 5

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 3:33am

Since these issues (mostly) seem to have begun "on day one", why did you continue to date him and eventually move in together when they weren't resolved to your satisfaction? What is the purpose of dating if not to find out whether or not you liked him? Once you found out you didn't like his sexual performance, his non-confrontational manner, his coming in late and his dozing on the couch when he does come home, why would you not politely thank him for showing you who he is and what he is all about, then move on to date someone else instead? What is preventing you from walking away now?

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 5:28am


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Registered: 06-07-2004
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 9:18am

After all this time, if things have not changed to your satisfaction, and these things are dealbreakers, then It is probably time to throw in the towel. To top it off, now you have gone out and cheated on him and it does not even bother you. So I ask you, what is there left to save? It seems you have already checked out of this relationship so why not make it official?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 9:52am

I agree with the others--you have this litany of complaints about the guy.

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 1:26pm
Sorry , but how can we help you when you dont want to help yourself? YOU cant change him.He will if / when HE wants to. Why havent you left already ?

Is there some valid reason except that you love him and he has some other great qualities ? These are deal breakers in a marriage as well. I would get up and divorce !
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 06-04-2011 - 12:48am

I have to agree with everyone else.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Sun, 06-05-2011 - 10:10pm
Change boyfriends.