Boyfriend and "Party" Drugs
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Boyfriend and "Party" Drugs
| Mon, 05-31-2004 - 1:47am |
I don't know what to do. I have been with my partner for nearly 8 years and I've hit a point where I'm not sure if it's worth continuing.
My boyfriend and his friends all take drugs when they go out, when they come to my house, whenever. While I did experiment with the stuff in the early years, I simply cannot handle the damage on my body and want to do other things with my/our lives (I'm 28). It also bothers me that whenever I see them, their brains are affected by the speed/ecstacy and I rarely see the real person. I resent my boyfriend's weekend long hangover and I hate the fact that it makes him stay out all night and not return til the next day.
I have talked to him about it for years and he says he doesn't plan to lead this lifestyle forever. Meanwhile his friends are still keen as ever to do this and unfortunately I know my man is eager to do whatever his friends do.
Other than this he is a very loving guy and his friends are also great people. Do I just put up with it? Leave?
Edited 5/31/2004 1:49 am ET ET by ko76
My boyfriend and his friends all take drugs when they go out, when they come to my house, whenever. While I did experiment with the stuff in the early years, I simply cannot handle the damage on my body and want to do other things with my/our lives (I'm 28). It also bothers me that whenever I see them, their brains are affected by the speed/ecstacy and I rarely see the real person. I resent my boyfriend's weekend long hangover and I hate the fact that it makes him stay out all night and not return til the next day.
I have talked to him about it for years and he says he doesn't plan to lead this lifestyle forever. Meanwhile his friends are still keen as ever to do this and unfortunately I know my man is eager to do whatever his friends do.
Other than this he is a very loving guy and his friends are also great people. Do I just put up with it? Leave?
Edited 5/31/2004 1:49 am ET ET by ko76

why choose to be with a drug addict?
would you willingly marry a raging alcoholic? same thing.
I guess the difficulty I'm having is that that was also a part of me years ago, so the issue is not so much that I am against something he enjoys, but rather I want to grow up and move on - and he's not ready to do that.
Also I am afraid that if I leave him I will consequently lose a lot friends too (I have become good friends with many of friends over the years). Or do you think they are just part of the problem?