boyfriend can't deal with my past

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Registered: 11-16-2007
boyfriend can't deal with my past
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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 3:16pm

I have never done this before, but I have

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 3:39pm

Welcome to the board isisrae1,


Your past is your past and there is nothing you can do about it. He ends to leave it in the past. The truth is that he is verbally abusing you. You don't deserve to be with someone who is going to call you names. Plus he has jealousy issues as well.


If you want to work on the relationship, tell him you want to go to couples counseling together. If he is unwilling to go, I would reconsider the relationship.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 3:56pm

Isisrae, this guy sounds like he has the makings of a complete nutter.

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Registered: 11-16-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 4:12pm

He sounds overbearing from what you say and

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 4:13pm

Welcome to the board isisrae1,


While reading your post I felt a lot of scary things, this guy is an abuser. He's started out controlling your life, manipulating you, digging in your past to use it against you, calls you names - that's verbal abuse.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 4:31pm

So why can't you break up with him? You obviously have to. No of course you don't "love" this guy, that would be crazy, how do you love someone who thinks you're a slut?

This guy is NUTS and you'd be just as nuts to stay with him. What a weird online relationship. I hope you get rid of him sooner rather than later. Maybe you should find a new guild...

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Registered: 11-16-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 5:42pm

Well since "S" has been so forthcoming about things and it appears our relationship is over(we just had a major falling out today), I guess I should provide some of my perspective. While S is right in that I have issues to deal with(fyi I am currently seeking a psychiatrist, and I am the one who requested couples therapy but she refuses to go due to time constraints), she has her own which she refuses to acknowledge such as violent tendencies and being diagnosed as manic depressive, but I'm not here to slander her as she so wonderfully did to me. Just a few tidbits of why I "freaked out" about things.


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Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 6:06pm
This guy scares me. He has the makings of a stalker or worse; totally insecure, jealous and immature. How can you have a healthy relationship with him?
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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 4:48am

Juststoppingby, I've advised isisrae to stop seeing you and I

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