Boyfriend is changing a lot

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Boyfriend is changing a lot
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Sat, 07-12-2008 - 11:35am
My boyfriend told me he would never talk to an ex and never like

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-13-2008 - 2:25pm

People go through changes in life and in relationships. It sounds as if your boyfriend has gone backwards, regressed, wants to be young and free once again. It doesn't mean he didn't love you in the past or that he told you lies. At that time he meant what he said. The problem is that he isn't developed enough, or grown up enough, to sustain it. He's not ready for a committed relationship. Please don't blame yourself. It's his lack of maturity and readiness that is causing this.


Let him go. There's nothing at all to hold onto here, it will only cause you pain. Everything he's said and done recently show you that he has already left the relationship emotionally. Keeping it going can only bring further hurt to you and delay your ability to heal and move forward. If the sadness and shock is too much for you, I recommend you find a good therapist in your area and go for some sesshins to get clarity, strength and self esteem back once again.


Best wishes,

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