Boyfriend has issues...

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Boyfriend has issues...
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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 5:12pm
I have lived with my boyfriend for two years now. He has major commitment issues, so we have always taken the relationship very slow. Everytime things are going good, he finds a way to sabotage the relationship. Recently, things have been great and he has come a long way with his past fears, but out of nowhere has accused me of cheating on him and that he does not trust me. I have sworn up and down that I have never cheated, but he has his mind made up. I don't think he is cheating because the signs of a cheater aren't there at all, so how do you deal with someone that is obviously so insecure???
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Registered: 05-29-2003
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 8:29pm
You re-establish your independence by moving into your own place and surrounding yourself with emotionally healthy people. Two years is too long to waste auditioning for someone with "issues." By the way, PLEASE tell us that your little girl doesn't live with you and this guy.
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Registered: 10-19-2004
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 6:49pm
I am working on buying my own place, so that is defintely the first step. Yes, my daughter lives there, but he and I have always kept separate bedrooms and as far as the kids are concerned, we are roommates, so that is not the issue. I have just never met someone so insecure and afraid of getting hurt. Guess if he won't find a way to fix it, then it is a waste of my time. I am just too compassionate as are most women and want to help him. Thanks for the advice...Take Care!