boyfriend help please??????

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Registered: 08-15-2004
boyfriend help please??????
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Sun, 08-15-2004 - 9:39pm
I am 21years old and dating a senior in highschool. We've been dating for about 3 months now and are pretty close. We've known eachother for about a few years from church. Anyways... He has this school dance tonight, and i told him to go and have fun with his friends. Of course i would rather him spend time with me, but i really dont think it's fair that i tell him not to go. I want him to go out and have fun with his friends of course. What do you think? Did i do the right thing? This is going to be a major issue if we continue to stay together... Please give me your thoughts.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 1:29am
It will become a major issue if YOU make it a major issue. Honestly, how many school dances are there in a year - maybe 6 or 7? Given he is a senior in high school he will have a variety of priorities this year that will have to take precendence over you at times.

I encourage you to be realistic and please don't make him feel guilty for spending a few evenings this school year away from you. If you make the choice to make him feel guilty about going to a school dance it will create major stress in the relationship. Not many high school senior guys are going to willingly participate in that type of environment.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 8:27am

You are only in high school once(hopefully :)), so to expect him to not go, or ask him to do that, is wrong. You knew that age difference when you got into things withhim...it wasnt an issue then, dont make it into one now. can he bring dates to these dances, as in - can you go with him? If so, why dont you. If not, then be supportive of him.