Boyfriend Lied Big Time

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Registered: 05-11-2008
Boyfriend Lied Big Time
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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 6:39pm

I've been with my boyfriend for over 7 years.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 05-11-2008 - 7:17pm

I agree, he's not trustworthy.

Nor is he the same guy around you as he is around his friends, and that's a really bad sign. You discovered a part of his personality he has been hiding from you, and even after seven years it was bound to come out at some point.

The way he reacted was crazy and scary - You're right. He was defensive because you finally discovered him.

"My thing is- if he lied about this..what else has he been lying about?"
Probably a lot. You may never know.

I know seven years is a long time, but this isn't just a lie. You've discovered that the man you thought you knew has a dark side that he's been keeping secret. For me this would be a relationship-ender with no arguments, no questions asked, and no long drawn-out discussion. I would leave plain and simple. You deserve an honest person who isn't afraid to be himself around you. That is not this man. I am really sorry that you had to go through this.

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Registered: 05-11-2008
Sun, 05-11-2008 - 7:34pm

Thank you so much for your response.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 05-11-2008 - 10:00pm

Welcome to the board laurennewyork,


Besides the lying, the scary part is he got busted and broke your cell phone.