boyfriend likes to choke me during sex
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boyfriend likes to choke me during sex
| Thu, 10-21-2004 - 3:22pm |
I'm a little concern because my boyfriend kinda choked me last night while we were having sex. Is this normal? I've been with him for 11 months and this is the first time he does this. At first i thought he didn't realized what he was doing it so i said- ouch you're chocking me...but then he went on and squeezed a bit harder. He finally stopped but now i'm starting to be concern about this behavior.

Some people like to role play. My husband and I do a lot but the thing is you 2 need to discuss it before hand and make sure you are both comfortable with it.
Maybe he has some sort of rape fantasy or something and he wanted to do that with you.. but I believe he should have talked to you 1st.
Also if you said ouch, and he didn't stop immediately then that is a sign of concern in my opinion.
You need to talk to him BEFORE you get into the bedroom again. ASk him what he was doing and why. Talk to him about it and make sure you set up some rules. If you don't want to be choked then make sure you tell him. SOme men and women do like to be choked or like to hold their own breath during orgasm because it supposedly makes the orgasm stronger, maybe he was trying to do that.
Also I would investigate if you are really worried.. does he look at porn? do you know what kind of porn? there's some sick violent porn out there and if he is looking at it you might have a problem so if you have any way of finding his porn, I would look into that just to make sure.
Can you say Kobe? Sorry.
This part worries me:
::At first i thought he didn't realized what he was doing it so i said- ouch you're chocking me...but then he went on and squeezed a bit harder
If he likes it and wants to continue, like the others said, talk about it, set boundaries, pick a key word that means you've gone too far. If you don't like it, then say so loud and clear.
Carrie
Edited 10/21/2004 11:05 pm ET ET by braveheart33