Boyfriend thinks i'm cheating!

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Registered: 08-17-2004
Boyfriend thinks i'm cheating!
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 4:40pm
I need some major advice!!

I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year now and we've had our bad times and our good times... I use to not trust him because my past boyfriends have cheated on me but now I know he won't ever cheat. The problem is that I broke his trust along time ago, I never cheated on him, I just was talking to my ex boyfriend and I told my ex boyfriend that I still had a thing for him. My current boyfriend found out and his trust for me was lost...he has many reasons to not trust me but that was such a long time ago and I have done almost everything I can to prove to him that my love is true. But, he has become controlling, obsessive, and has major tabs on me! I want our love to be better. I want for him to just love and trust me and I the same to him. For ofcourse we have made it official that we are getting married in the future except in the marriage I don't want to be a "stuck-in-the-house- housewife" and miserable. I want to be able to go out with a bunch of girlfriends to the mall without him worrying. Please Please help me asap! WHAT DO I DO?????

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 5:36pm
br0ken x inside...

Just cancel the marriage plans and become a "free agent" instead.

YOU blew it already by telling your EX-BOYFRIEND 'you still had a thing for him!' How do you expect your 'almost husband' to feel? Should he pick out a king sized bed and let your EX and You go at it "one more time?"

If you feel your fiancee is controlling now...wait'll you spend a few months together after you both say "I DO!"

Some ivillagers might disagree with me, but you are definitely NOT ready for marriage right now. Come to think of it...neither is the man you wish to marry.

So make your wedding plans...UNOFFICIAL...at least for now.

Stick with the girlfriends at the mall and leave the responsibilities of being a wife (and perhaps a Mom) to the women who honestly want them!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 08-17-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 5:44pm
I get what your saying but did I not say that the plans were not until the far future!? What's wrong with wanting to have a great relationship with my boyfriend and having a great relationship with my girlfriends too? This is a forum called "relationship saver" not "relationship ender". When I have talked to my ex-boyfriend I knew it was wrong and that I did not fully mean it...I regreted it, and people make mistakes...it could have been worse. But I will always stay true to my boyfriend and what i'm looking for is a way to get him to trust me 100%! If you have answers to that then tell me!


Edited 8/17/2004 5:47 pm ET ET by br0ken_x_inside
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:18pm
br0ken x inside...

If the "TRUST" has been broken...YOU can't expect things to be perfect again overnight? The theory of 'kissing it and making it better' doesn't work when TRUST is involved!

Once again...this board contains opinions you MAY or MAY NOT agree with...and Pianoguy indicated his viewpoint might cause some ivillagers to disagree! THAT'S OKAY! It's strictly my opinion. I'm sorry if my thoughts don't coincide with yours. But...

Isn't this the purpose of ALL the relationship boards? They're here for ivillagers to express individual opinions...not just the ones YOU want to hear!

Pianoguy