boyfriends co dependent sister

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Registered: 01-18-2006
boyfriends co dependent sister
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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 10:03am

My boyfriend of 5 years keeps bailing his sister out of trouble.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 10:05am
Do you live together? Are you planning on a marriage in the future? Have you combined your finances in any way yet?
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 12:14pm

We don't live together and we aren't married yet.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 12:56pm

Welcome to the board Dani,


If this is somthing that is really bothering you, than talk to him about it. The next time he talks about your future together, meant that you aren't comfortable loaning family members money and ask him if he would loan his sister money if you are married. Then see how it goes.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 3:53pm

'I don't think I want to spend my life with someone who can't stand up to his sister and will be using our money to always give to her.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 4:33pm

Welcome to the board dvldogmom,


Next time he brings up marriage, ask him if he's willing to go to pre-martial counseling with you.... if you address the issues there, he may be willing to get himself free of the guilty-feelings about his sister.