boyfriend's constantly asks about my ex's

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Registered: 11-12-2013
boyfriend's constantly asks about my ex's
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Tue, 11-12-2013 - 2:16am

Hi

So this is my first time writing on this board and I didn't know where else to turn but I was a bit curious and wanted people's input.  So I have a great boyfriend.  We are both in love and also a bit older both 36 years old. however,  my question is he constantly asks how he compares to my ex boyfriends in terms of size down below.... In honest, I didn't want to hurt his feelings because he is on the smaller side but he kept asking and said he wouldn't be offended.  

I finally told him that of the 10 guys I have had relationships with his size is more on the smaller side and it was about the 9th smallest of the 10 guys I have been with...Then he started asking about his ball sizes compared to others and he wouldn't stop asking until I told him and I said they were the smallest I have been with...

He stated that he wasn't hurt and that he was thankful that I was so honest with him and he stated that he was proud because "this truly shows size does not matter and I am strangely turned on by this..."

I found this wierd that he was turned on by this? should I be alarmed? I don't know if I hurt his feelings and he is hiding them?  or maybe I am thinking too much into it.  Any suggestions?

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I think it's an odd question & I wouldn't have answered it.  I would have told him that I didn't measure the guys and it wasn't an issue.  But since he says it doesn't bother him, I suppose it's good (unless he is lying).  By the way, have you ever known a woman going around saying that she was looking for a man w/ big b@lls?

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Registered: 11-12-2013
To answer your question Musiclover, No I have never known a woman going around doing such things. I was going to bring it up to my friends but I was kind of embarrassed to bring such topics up and thought it was weird. In truth, I really don't know what to think of it. I just think it is odd....but felt like I needed to answer it as he wanted to know.. I just hope I didn't hurt him...
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Registered: 05-20-2009

I'm sorry, but if he truly felt that size didn't matter, he wouldn't have asked the question.  This guy is worried that you've had better, and you told him you had.......which just added to his insecurity.   Now he wants to know about testicle size?  And how does that matter in any way?  This guy is either totally insecure, or he's got a weird interest in other men's genitalia.  In any case, I wouldn't have answered his first question, and if he continued to ask, I'd have looked for the nearest door. 

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Registered: 11-23-2013

I think this is  nt a good question for both of you. You just ignore this question. Rather than u ask him why u ask these sily question. Now i am with you and concentraint on our present  relationship. and avoid our pasts.  Because past ever hurts a lot.