boyfriends dreaded ex-girlfriend

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Registered: 05-17-2007
boyfriends dreaded ex-girlfriend
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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 2:54pm

My guy and I have been dating for only a month or so, so the relationship is still new. Everything is going beyond fabulous and I'm loving every minute of it except this one little part...his ex-girlfriend! Jessica* and my guy have been friends and I'm okay with that except for the fact that its seems a little closer then friends. She's been his ex-girlfriend for 3 years, so why worry right? Here's my reasoning..She always calls him wanting to hang out, I've seen text messages from him to her saying "I'd come and cuddle but you might yell rape again" and "Miss you baby *kiss*". She's aware that we're dating and everything between him and I have been honest. I confronted him about the "miss you baby *kiss*" text message and he said he's sorry and feels really bad, she was just looking for a friend. I really dont know what to think! I dont want to make it a big deal because I dont want to ruin what we have going but I dont want it to continue and bother me..
DOES ANYONE KNOW WHERE I'M COMING FROM?? Same situation?? maybe??

HELP??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 3:28pm

Three years is a long time to be an ex. It's unusual that they're still in touch. Whether or not there's anything more going on here is something you'll have to feel out for yourself in time. He says there isn't. And, the basis of all good relationships is trust. You've only been with him for one month. Why not give your relationship time to grow and allow the bonding to get deeper. As time goes by you'll have a chance to see what's really involved between him and his ex. It can be that when things really grow between the two of you, he won't have a need to be that connected to her. You'll see. Give it time and keep your eyes open.


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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 4:31pm

Welcome to the board hbananax22,


I think you have a good reason to be weary of the relationship between the two of them. Those text messages portray that they are likely more than friends. If they don't have a physical relationship at the moment, they certainly have an emotional one. I would be careful.


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Registered: 12-01-2003
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 12:48pm
yes! keep those eyes wiiiide open. because shes being sneaky i can already tell...shes trying to worry you or make it seem likes shes a threat, and dont let her win! because if you guys break up, she wins! as far as those text mssgs shes definetly trying to get your attention probably more than his...but an ex-gf for 3 years, thats a long time, but i guess if he wanted her, because obviously she wants him, he would be with her and not you. another thing, dont show him your jealous, even if you are, play everything cool, its only been a month.. take time. whenever you see something about her that has to do with him confront him about it but dont make it into a whiny deal, be cool about it.