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Break up?
| Thu, 09-16-2004 - 4:59pm |
I've been in a relationship for over 3 years now. (I'm only 22) Recently, I got enough courage to break up with my girlfriend. After a few days of not speaking with her, and being called by her family asking for a reason, I sat down and talked with her, and naively(?spelling) thought things would get better. After less than 2 weeks of being back together, I find myself questioning the decision I made. I truly care for the girl, and have lived with her for over a year. I don't feel like I have been happy for a very long time, and wonder if attempting to work things out is all for naught. The physical part of our relationship has never been exceptional, and I feel it has made me bitter about the resto of our relationship to the point it will never be better. I could talk forever about my situation... anyone have any advice? I'm expecting to hear "you're young, let it go" kind of advice, but its very difficult when her family tells me they love me, and I would feel like I was letting them down as well. Thanks for reading!

Why is it that Pianoguy wanted to compare your situation to that of a worn out dishtowel? It's amazing how easy it is for some people to use others until they get tired of 'em....then they want to discard the towel...err...the person!!! I get that impression with you.
You had an "out" 2 weeks ago...and should have ended the relationship for good. However, you changed your mind because of pressure from the girl's family. Obviously they either think very highly of you...or are concerned about the mental state of 'their little girl?'
Let's see...you've been with the lady for 3 YEARS, lived with her for 1 year, and you wanna break it off because she's not 'great in the sack!' Weren't you aware of her sexual disfunction sooner than this? Bringing this issue up NOW as an excuse to dump the girl is VERY LAME! .
I'm not going to do the "you're young and didn't know better" crap. Let's just say you acted irresponsibility with your feelings...not only towards your g/f (who obviously still loves you), but with her family...who probably thought you had honorable intentions? Basically...you misrepresented yourself!
Is it possible to end this relationship gracefully without a lot of anger and tears? NOPE! But since it's obvious that this is what YOU REALLY WANT TO DO....you might as well "face the music and dance!"
Pianoguy
Something she did or didn't like to do? JUst curious..
I see it as you either get strong in your convictions, go to counseling on your own to find out why you 'give in' or you go to counseling with her and address the issues there so she can understand and possibly come to the same conclusion that the two of you aren't compatible enough for a long-term relationship.
Carrie