breakin heart

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Registered: 02-21-2008
breakin heart
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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 2:05pm

this is pretty complex.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nappy_girl
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 2:48pm

You say you are married, but tremendously attracted to someone else who you communicate with. This other guy is moving on, and you are desperate about it. Your life is going into the toilet, but you do not want to go for help. What is it you do want? You need help badly. If you don't get the help you need, others around you will suffer as well. It's impossible to hold onto a relationship with someone else while you are married. It's also unfair to all of you. Sounds as though you are having a tantrum because you want everything the way you want it. First find out what's going on in your marriage that causes you to feel such a strong need for someone else. Usually, there's something at home that needs to be handled.As you have children, it would be a good idea to at least find out what's going on at home and if it can be corrected. Give counseling a try. Nobody will judge or blame you, only help you to get clear about these strong feelings you're having. You need to understand what's going on, or else the feelings can wreack havoc in your life.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 02-21-2008
In reply to: nappy_girl
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 3:08pm

wow!

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: nappy_girl
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 3:52pm

Welcome to the board nappy_girl,


No good with come out of continuing to have contact with this other. It will only make your feelings stronger and hurt you more in the long run. He has moved on and pining after and trying to

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Registered: 02-21-2008
In reply to: nappy_girl
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 5:32pm

hello and thanks.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: nappy_girl
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 8:48pm

Welcome to the board nappy_girl,


You can't just 'be friends' with this guy and continue to hang out with him, especially after having an emotional affair with him.

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Registered: 02-21-2008
In reply to: nappy_girl
Sun, 02-24-2008 - 6:55am
Thanks cl_itwinflame.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: nappy_girl
Sun, 02-24-2008 - 3:04pm
We are stronger than we give ourselves credit for.