breaking up

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Registered: 09-05-2006
breaking up
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:46pm
Ok heres the story but in a short version. My g/f and i have been together for 10 months. thorough out that whole time it was great. but about 7 months into this relationship there was this guy that she kept talking too and called her best friend and she would talk to him on the phone a lot at night and also on email. so i didn't like that and i told her to stop and that it wasn't right bc i am ur bf and u shouldn't be talking to him that much. ok so the relationship continues and one night she went out with this guy with some friends w/o telling me and then a couple of days later she told me and i got all mad at her for doing that and not telling me. and then i noticed that the talking didn't stop and stuff so i went onto her email to see what was up and i found some stuff like that guy was telling her that he wanted her and she agreed at the time but when i confronted her she said it was only old feelings coming back. but also at that time her parents were just getting a divorse. she saw me going onto her email as the biggest possible thing i could of done to hurt her. i mean i know it was wrong. so then with this situation with her being all mad and saying that she never thought i would do that and her parents going through a divorse she said she needed a break so i said ok. we took a break for 2 weeks and then got back together. and we stayed together for about 2 weeks. but i notice the whole time we were back together she didn't go back to her old self and i told her and she said she was prob doing it self consiously bc she didn't want to get too attached to me before i go to college in like 3-4months. so i said ok we will just be friends since u don't feel the sm way about me. i mean she says she still loves me but its not how it used to be. all bc i went through her email. i mean i know it was wrong but really was it worth breaking up. i think she is just making it such a big deal bc she wants to try and get deattached from me before i go to college so when i do go to college it will be easier for her to deal with. but my one friend says she did the sm thing and it didn't help. ok sry for the long email. but what should i do i mean i have a feeling she might come back to me. but is there anything i can do? and why didn't she feel the sm way for me after the break and after i went through her email. she went behind my back by going out with him and i forgave her? what do i do please help
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: gbohus
Wed, 03-21-2007 - 11:34am

Welcome to the board,


I think she was just mad about you going through her email because you