breaking up

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Registered: 08-07-2004
breaking up
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Sat, 08-07-2004 - 8:47pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, and he now wants to break up. He says that he is still very in love with me, but thr fighting has just become too much and feels that it is best for both of us if we end things. I asked if there's a possibility of us getting back together and he said there might be. All this happened just a day ago, and I'm crushed. I want to work things out. How do I get him to see things my way? What should I tell him?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: alana1230
Sat, 08-07-2004 - 9:17pm
First ask him if he would be willing to go to couple's counseling with you to resolve the issues and/or to get to the underlying issue that causes the fighting. If he says yes, great. If not, tell him - While I disagree with your decision to split up, I want you to know that I will honor it. In order for me to heal, I need a period of no contact for x amount of time.

While it's hard to stick to it, he needs to know that you won't be 'friends with benefits' and that his decision is serious. Right now he may think he can escape the fighting by leaving, sorry but that tells me he's not committed to the relationship enough to stay and work through the problems.


Carrie