Breakup seems inevitable

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Registered: 03-14-2008
Breakup seems inevitable
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Fri, 03-14-2008 - 1:28pm

My boyfriend and I had a large disagreement. He said that I don't hold many conversations with him and whenever I do, I sound uninterested. I told him that he needs to work on being more patient, affectionate, and supportive of me. I go to a stressful grad school so I don't have time to read into current issues, politics, movies, etc. I asked him if he was disappointed in me and he said that he wouldn't say that. I also asked him what he thought about our relationship and the only thing he said is that we come from different backgrounds (which we do). But that's all he said. I want to know if he wants to stay in this relationship or not. We live together so I figure if he dislikes it he'll move out soon enough.

I told him that I recognize that I have communication issues and that I'll work on it but he seemed to scoff it off.

I feel like the damage is permanent and that I'm anticipating the breakup. I love him so so so much and I want everything to work out okay but I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say to him, it feels like I said everything that I needed to yesterday. When he comes home from work, I just want to cry, tell him that I love him, and melt in his arms. Oh God, but I have such a bad feeling that this is the end.

I don't know what to do! :(

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 2:45pm

Welcome to the board eyealone07,.


What you affirm - I have such a bad feeling that this is the end. Is what you will manifest.


Reading material to consider:

Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Are You the One for Me? Barbara DeAngelis





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Registered: 03-14-2008
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 2:55pm

I think I'll have another talk with him tonight. I've been trying to make a list of things to say. I'll tell him that I love him a lot, I've enjoyed all of our times together, I understand that we have differences in our backgrounds but I think we can get through that. I'll then ask him where he wants this relationship to go.

I just don't know if it will be enough... I can't think of anything else to do.