Bring back the passion!

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Bring back the passion!
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Thu, 01-08-2004 - 7:05pm
How can I bring back the passion and spark we once had in our relationship? Things have gotten off track and want to salvage it before it goes completely sour. It's okay now but miss that! What can I do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 11:19am

To bring back passion in a relationship we have to give special attention to the other person and to ourselves. Break out of the old routines. Plan to spend quality time together in a completely different setting, doing something you both have always wanted to do, but haven't yet. Make romantic dates together. Dress in a way that turns him on. Often familiarity breeds a bit of boredom. Keep him guessing. Don't be so predictable. Don't be his sister, be his girl friend. Remember what it was that drew the two of you together, what made it exciting and romantic at the start. A lot of it was just finding out about the other, and trying to win their hearts. Realize that neither of you know all about each other - throw a bit of mystery and challenge into the mix.


I also suggest you read my book Zen And The Art Of Falling In Love - this is full of discussion about love and wonderful exercises to help.


Best wishes.