Broke up with Boyfriend

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Registered: 01-16-2004
Broke up with Boyfriend
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Fri, 01-16-2004 - 10:52am
I started dating this guy 4 months ago. Hes 25 I am 26 years old.. Everything is going great but I noticed after two months that not only does he work a ton during the week I know this cause he works with his parents but on weekend he would only take me out one night a week on the weekend.. I would maybe see this guy once a week... He d suually go out with friends on Friday or bring me along.. We would talk all the time on the phone. I had a discusiion with him on the third month that I would like to spend more time.. He agreed well two weeks went by still not making effort.. So I decided to break up with him ( it was a crying break up and he had tears but was also mad whioch II unbderstand but I have given three chances to start making effort) I felt he had to many other important things to him then me at this time... After 4 motnh I figure you should be hanging out more then once a night..On top of this I went to NEw York for NEw years and he didnt even bother to call me till 9 that night to make sure I got back alright.. I know he liked me he took me to christmas with his parents I think he was jsut immature or something .. ...That was Sunday he has not called to get me back or say sorry nothing I am upset about this I understand I broke it off but I did it and I told him I was doing this becuase I wanted someone who woiudl spend more time with me... Think I did the right thing of lettign it go?

Edited 1/16/2004 11:06:37 AM ET by slp28


Edited 1/16/2004 11:53:36 AM ET by slp28

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Fri, 01-16-2004 - 11:53am
If you wanted more, and he was not willing to give more, then you did the right thing. there probably isn't any room in his life for a real relationship right now, and if you are not willing to wait, if you feel frustrated, unhappy and neglected, then you made the right decision. People have different needs, and if these needs are incompatible they should just move on. Your BF probably realized this (like yourself), and this may be why he is not trying to get you back. He probably cannot afford to spend more time with you. Or he does not feel like. Why should he call you back? To continue with the problems? You should find someone who is willing to spend more time with you. I stopped dating someone because he was too stressed out and busy to spend a lot of time with me, and I felt neglected. Now we are both involved with other people, and we are still good friends. It didn;t work out for us, and it was for the best. Good luck to you!
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 01-16-2004 - 1:20pm

Do I think you did the right thing by standing up for your convictions and what you want out of a commitment?Absolutley.


Just know that becuase a SO doesnt spend more a couple hours with you doesnt discredit his feelings for you. What it does mean