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| Wed, 08-08-2007 - 7:24pm |
Hi, I don't know if anyone can help me but i am very confused. I am living with my boyfriend and all we do is fight. he has told me a couple of time to leave and than we try to work it out. Right now it seems like nothing is working anymore. He has a lot of stuff bothering him cause he was married at one time and he has a 12 year old daughter that dosent want to talk to him and there are a lot of problems that he wont talk to me about. I want to be the one that he can talk to about anything but he said that when he tried telling me before i just blew it back in his face. I feel like what problems he has he takes out on me. when stuff bothers him he don't want me around he don't want to even go to bed with me and when i say anything all we do is fight. can somone out there give me some advice please.

You both have a responsibility to learn to communicate in a healthy way. Don't excuse his behavior by saying he has a lot on his mind - so what? That's not a license to take it out on you. If he's not sharing his feelings with you and has decided, because of some past issue with you that he's never going to share his feelings with you, what can you really do? You fight all the time and he's asked you on more than one occasion to leave. It doesn't sound to me like there is any incentive there to fix things and you certainly can't do it alone? He needs to blame you - do you want to live in guilt?
His own daughter won't even talk to him - doesn't that tell you something about him?
Welcome to the board raincloud2007,
There are communication problems that need to be worked out before the destroy your relationship. You both need to learn how to talk to each other in a nice way about your problems and concerns. If something is bothering you talk to him about it in a calm, non-accusing manner. If a conversion is turning in a fight, agree to drop it until you can talk about it calmly.
I would suggest couples counseling and possible for him to have family counseling to help him resolve the issue with his daughter. Do you know why she won't talk to him?
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