brother is seeing bf's ex gf
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brother is seeing bf's ex gf
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 9:14am |
My boyfriend and i have been together for almost seven years. In the past we have had problems and been on and off. During our last break up he started to see someone and well that was for less then a month we worked things out and now we are planning on getting married. The problem is that now my brother who is friends with that girl seems too be spending too much time with her. I think they are dating. The other day when i got home i found her in my house and well they weren't doing anything but still i see that something is going on. I talked to my brother and told him i didn't mind if they were seeing each other (i actually do) but to not bring her here. Am i wrong to get in between? It's just hard to see her, and in my house. My brother seems to like her, how can I go about this?
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Honestly, it doesn't matter if she is being logical or selfish, she feels the way she feels.
James
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It's perfect normal for you to feel uneasy about seeing this girl in your own home. You have every right to decide who does and does not come into your home. Let your brother know that you are about to be married and feel uneasy being around your fiancee's ex. If he doesn't understand that, something is wrong. Secondly, if for some reason your brother does decide to continue his relationship with her, that is his choice to make. He can do it on his own time and in his own home. Unless the two of them become serious, there is no reason why you should have to be involved in his dating life. It's his business and doesn't have to involve you. He should not bring you into it at all. If for some reason, down the road, the two of them become really serious (engaged or whtaever, that's another story. But I wouldn't worry about that now. Go one step at a time and do what is right and appropriate now).
Good luck with your forthcoming marriage.
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