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| Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:00pm |
Hello everyone,
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. I am 27 and he is 33. He has a 10 year old from a previous relationship and I have never been with a man that has a child. Naturally this is a new situation for me so I have some questions and insecurities about his ex because she calls him other than to talk about the child. Also when we first got together it popped out one day that he cheated on his last girlfriend with his child mother. I cant get that out of my head.
He is a good man overall but I cant get past this arguing with him. If I am looking a certain way and he asks me what's wrong and I say nothing, he gets an attitude. If I don't know what I want to eat, we argue over that. I am no angel trust me, I have a temper, but we cant seem to talk. When I bring concerns to him, he tells me I am "bugging out" and this makes me not want to talk to him at all and I cant be with someone I cant talk to and someone who cant talk to me. I do love him and part of me wants to let it go, another part of me feels we can work this out. I am so angry right now. Our fights have gotten worst to the point of name calling and threatening to break up with each other. anyone feel hopeless. Does anyone know what I should do???
Edited 5/8/2008 2:30 pm ET by anwar2003

Welcome to the board anwar2003,
Sounds like you are listing a lot of issues here: a child, the calls from the mother, the fights, the wondering about his character and integrity due to him cheating in the past, the way the two of you interact and speak to each other and jump to conclusions....
Reading material:
Ten Rules for Fighting Fair - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlrelationsh&msg=28141.1
Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman
If This Is Love Why Do I Feel So Insecure? by Carl G. Hindy
HUGS
Some of those books are still good, for the future if you know what I mean.....