Can he get it back?
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Can he get it back?
| Sun, 04-08-2007 - 8:06am |
I have been with my DH for 9 years and married for 4.5 and we have a three year old and a 5 month old. My DH felt neglected for some time because I had a hard time doing it "all." He claims I have hurt him a lot in our relationship by not giving the love/attention he needed (although a lot of it also had to do with things he did/or didn't do and hurt me too). Needless to say, it isnt' just me. Well, About two months ago, I started making a great effort to reconnect with him because I do love him and want us to be a family. He pulled away and got very angry with me and we are dealing with this now (in counsling too). He doesn't want to have anything to do with me at this point physically. He says he needs to get back what I broke. He loves me, I am a great mom, but he is not in love with me and doesn't know how to get it back. He is still angry and blames me for our situation. Is it possible for him to drop the walls around him, stop blamming me and move on and love me again? Can this happen or I am destined for a loveless marriage or a divorce?

Hi bubblebath and welcome to the board,
Here's some reading material to consider:
Divorce Busters by Michelle Weiner-Davis
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage by Morrie and Arleah Shechtman
Let Dr Phil tell in 'Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?'