Can I accept marajuana use?
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Can I accept marajuana use?
| Fri, 01-16-2004 - 5:58pm |
I am a 29 year old female. Seven years ago I became involved with a man who had a drug and alcohol problem. At the time I thought I could fix it, but I learned that I couldn't. Our relationship became physical one afternoon when he attacked me, while under the influence of alcohol and marajuana. I was choked to the point that I almost passed out. It took me a long time to get over the fact that I could not help him, and that he had turned on me and hurt me so badly. I have never done drugs and I did not understand why they absorbed so much of his life. Now, 8 years later, I am involved with a wonderful guy. He is caring, funny, talented and loving. My problem is, he is a marajuana smoker. At first I tried to look past it and learn to accept it. He doesn't have a bad temper when he smokes like my ex did, but the smell of it reminds me of the past and it brings back terrible memories of the day I was attacked. He thinks that I should learn to compromise and accept it here and there. But I don't know if I can. I need your help girls! Am I holding on to bad memories that I just need to let go of? Should I move forward with my relationship? Should I learn to compromise on the issue? Or, should I end it based on my experiences? I am so confused. Sometime I feel right by not accepting it, and then others bad for holding on to old memories.

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Drug addiction is a serious issue and based on your past experience you are wise to be concerned, but marijuana is not an addictive drug. Cocaine, Heroine, Alcohol and now Methamphetamines are very addictive and cause serious problems for their users.
What I recommend is that you ask your guy to not smoke around you. That way you will not have to smell it and this should alleviate your fears. As far as his behavior, you may not even notice any difference in him when he has been smoking, or at the worst he may just be a little sillier.
Good luck!
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