can i change him

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can i change him
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 6:38pm
Help! Im in need of some ones help. Ive been seeing this guy on and off for a few months, to cut a long story short i found out he was a player and a good one at that.

and I wanted nothing more to do with him. But recently he's got back in touch and says he's changed, after a few weeks, ive realised, he hasnt, but the thing is i really like this guy. i no i no!)

Does n e one know how to change a man, or at least get him 'hung up' on me the way i am on him. I'm not sure i want to get back together with him, but just to know he's there if i want him would be good.

Getting interest from other blokes would just annoy him and he wont talk to me, and he never goes to anyother pub other then his local so i cant really dress to impress , how do i get it to the point where he's dying to be with me? N e good one liners.

I no its a bit of a strange promblem and might be 'playing games' but im only 18 and i only want some advice on how to get at him! thanks in advance
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Registered: 08-04-2003
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 7:33pm
First, no, you can't change him. Second, would you want someone you could change (read that, someone you could control, instead of someone with a mind (and actions) all their own)??? I mean wouldn't you want it to be mutual?

Get the book, What Smart Women Know and see if it doesn't help. You like him so much. When I hear that, I always want to ask, does that mean you turned deaf or blind? Because if his actions match is words, why don't you believe what you see and hear, why don't you see the truth of the situation? He said he changed to win you back, because his ego couldn't take that you were done with him. Now don't let your ego get the best of you and keep you in a bad situation because you think that if you just love him enough, are good enough, better, you could love him more and he's want you, because that's not the way it works. I realize you can't hear my tone when I type, I'm not trying to be harsh, just truthful to save you some heartache in the long run.


Carrie