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Can I get him back?
| Sun, 01-11-2004 - 9:31am |
My boyfriend left me on New Years Eve. My phone went dead while we were arguing & I called him back & he didn't answer. I went to his house with a bottle of champagne, dressed & ready to go & when I walked inside, he was gone. I was so mad & hurt.
The next day I knew he was at a cook out 2 blocks from my house, so i called him & henever answered. I took everything he ever gave me, destroyed it & left it on his car at his friends. The next night while I was out I ran into him and I imediatly started demanding for him to talk to me outside. he refused and kept saying no, shaking his head...then said it's never going to work. I was so mad so I slapped him in the face & left.
The next day I cryed my eyes out for ruining everthing he gave me & then slapping him. My emotions got the best of me...I was so hurt he refused to talk to me I went crazy.
We finally talked & he said he felt that I was never satisfied and my bratty attitude on New Years Eve was the icing on the cake, b/c he was trying to make plans & nothing he suggested I agreed with.
I see his point & I feel so terrible that I let my emotions take over me this way. I wish I never slapped him, or destroyed the wonderful gifts he gave me. I look back now & what he wanted us to do on New Years was wonderful & I wasn't fine with it then, b/c like I said I was irraated and had pms.
He says we need time apart. I want to be with him & I am sorry. I have always showed him how much he means to me. I love him & I know he loves me too, but he is really hurt. I stoppedby his house yesterday to talk to him and we did make love and he I could see in his eyes he was hurt. I will never do anything like this again no matter how mad or hurt I get. How can I make him believe this without him leaving me for good?
The next day I knew he was at a cook out 2 blocks from my house, so i called him & henever answered. I took everything he ever gave me, destroyed it & left it on his car at his friends. The next night while I was out I ran into him and I imediatly started demanding for him to talk to me outside. he refused and kept saying no, shaking his head...then said it's never going to work. I was so mad so I slapped him in the face & left.
The next day I cryed my eyes out for ruining everthing he gave me & then slapping him. My emotions got the best of me...I was so hurt he refused to talk to me I went crazy.
We finally talked & he said he felt that I was never satisfied and my bratty attitude on New Years Eve was the icing on the cake, b/c he was trying to make plans & nothing he suggested I agreed with.
I see his point & I feel so terrible that I let my emotions take over me this way. I wish I never slapped him, or destroyed the wonderful gifts he gave me. I look back now & what he wanted us to do on New Years was wonderful & I wasn't fine with it then, b/c like I said I was irraated and had pms.
He says we need time apart. I want to be with him & I am sorry. I have always showed him how much he means to me. I love him & I know he loves me too, but he is really hurt. I stoppedby his house yesterday to talk to him and we did make love and he I could see in his eyes he was hurt. I will never do anything like this again no matter how mad or hurt I get. How can I make him believe this without him leaving me for good?

As for your behavior, irritated and premenstrual are not an excuse. If you normally feel this way on a monthly basis, unable to control your anger and reacting in immature ways (destroying things in anger and hitting), then get help. Your regular gyn doctor can help you with the pms. There are medications and other things you can do for yourself, including vitamins, exercise and diet, that can help control pms. If, in fact, this is just an excuse for your behavior and you feel this way on a regular basis, then you need the help of a counselor to get your anger under control.
NO ONE deserves to be hit and I personally think you don't deserve another chance. If you want to better yourself, stop making excuses and get help as fast as you can.