Can I get him to give me another chance
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Can I get him to give me another chance
| Sat, 01-10-2004 - 9:13pm |
My boyfriend left me on New Years Eve. My phone went dead while we were arguing & I called him back & he didn't answer. I went to his house with a bottle of champagne, dressed & ready to go & when I walked inside, he was gone. I was so mad & hurt.
The next day I knew he was at a cook out 2 blocks from my house, so i called him & henever answered. I took everything he ever gave me, destroyed it & left it on his car at his friends. The next night while I was out I ran into him and I imediatly started demanding for him to talk to me outside. he refused and kept saying no, shaking his head...then said it's never going to work. I was so mad so I slapped him in the face & left.
The next day I cryed my eyes out for ruining everthing he gave me & then slapping him. My emotions got the best of me...I was so hurt he refused to talk to me I went crazy.
We finally talked & he said he felt that I was never satisfied and my bratty attitude on New Years Eve was the icing on the cake, b/c he was trying to make plans & nothing he suggested I agreed with.
I see his point & I feel so terrible that I let my emotions take over me this way. I wish I never slapped him, or destroyed the wonderful gifts he gave me. I look back now & what he wanted us to do on New Years was wonderful & I wasn't fine with it then, b/c like I said I was irraated and had pms.
He says we need time apart. I want to be with him & I am sorry. I have always showed him how muxh he means to me. I love him & I know he loves me. I will never do anything like this again no matter how mad or hurt I get. How can I make him believe this without him leaving me for good?
The next day I knew he was at a cook out 2 blocks from my house, so i called him & henever answered. I took everything he ever gave me, destroyed it & left it on his car at his friends. The next night while I was out I ran into him and I imediatly started demanding for him to talk to me outside. he refused and kept saying no, shaking his head...then said it's never going to work. I was so mad so I slapped him in the face & left.
The next day I cryed my eyes out for ruining everthing he gave me & then slapping him. My emotions got the best of me...I was so hurt he refused to talk to me I went crazy.
We finally talked & he said he felt that I was never satisfied and my bratty attitude on New Years Eve was the icing on the cake, b/c he was trying to make plans & nothing he suggested I agreed with.
I see his point & I feel so terrible that I let my emotions take over me this way. I wish I never slapped him, or destroyed the wonderful gifts he gave me. I look back now & what he wanted us to do on New Years was wonderful & I wasn't fine with it then, b/c like I said I was irraated and had pms.
He says we need time apart. I want to be with him & I am sorry. I have always showed him how muxh he means to me. I love him & I know he loves me. I will never do anything like this again no matter how mad or hurt I get. How can I make him believe this without him leaving me for good?

Maybe the one thing you can do that is not "in-his-face" is send him an e-mail expressing all your regret and explaining what you were going through at the time. Tell him that you are taking steps to change for the better (and mean it). It doesn't excuse your actions, and I think you should say so, too. Then give him his space and let him decide whether he wants to try again. You may be pleasantly surprised, one day soon. If not, then you will have to cut your losses and realise that you hurt him too much...
Give it as much time as you are willing to wait on (3 weeks, 2 months, etc), then move on without him, if you have to.
Good luck, hon.
That's pretty extreme, out there behavior.