Can I save my marriage?
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|Sat, 06-25-2011 - 1:00pm|
I met my husband when I was 19 and we have been together 11 years, married for three. Just lately we have been arguing a lot. Frankly, I am bored with all the fighting and the pettiness. He is giving me the 'silent treatment' at the moment - he has not said a word to me for three days. This latest is because I smoked while driving. He has previously asked me not to. Firstly, the car is more mine than his. I am the main bread-winner so pay for most of the bills etc. Secondly, over the past year I have begun to rebel. Thirdly, and mainly I know that this latest is not about the car - he has deeper issues that he is not talking about.
I think that he is doing this because he wants to move. He has always had 'itchy feet' so we have moved every couple of years to a new city. This time I am happy and I want to stay. It is the first time in a long time that I have friends and a life of my own. This has been building for a while and I just don't know what to do. He won't talk and I can't even think about suggesting counselling because he would NEVER attend that!
I want to make it work, I love him, but I don't know if we can fix this. He has hurt me emotionally so much over the past few months and does not even consider that he has done anything wrong. For quite some time I did believe that everything wrong in the relationship was my fault - but I don't anymore. I just don't know what he wants or expects from me.