Can I trust him?

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Registered: 12-14-2007
Can I trust him?
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Fri, 12-14-2007 - 9:29am

I'm new to this message board and have been brought here due to my current situation.

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 10:56am

I think you're right in that he hasn't given you any reason to trust him. He has broken up with you because his EX- WIFE didn't like him seeing anyone else? Um....that doesn't sound normal - at all. That's what happens when you get a divorce, you move on, and moving on involves seeing other people. She is way over involved in his life, but I would say that's because your boyfriend wants her to be. If he truly wanted nothing to do with her, and wanted to move on with you, he would break off contact with her. And there's a big difference between staying friends, and

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Registered: 12-14-2007
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 2:38pm
When I read your posting I felt as if I had written it myself! I am in the same situation to some degree. It is really hard for me to trust my live-in boyfriend for the same reason...his EX-WIFE still has a hold on him even tho she is remarried to the man that she left him for she still can't live with the idea of him being with someone else either. He has custody of the 2 boys that they share together so they have to keep in contact also. When we first started dating he hid the fact that I was even a part of his life, even after we moved in together he lied and said that he was living alone. When she found out about it she had a fit and called me to "let me know" that he had been continuing to call her and tell her how much he wanted to get back together with her and that he wanted to have booty calls and etc. I left that night! we eventually worked things out, but....It has left me with a sour feeling in my heart that I can't seem to get over. I still check his phone, but of course he is aware of that so he just deletes all the evidence. It is very difficult for me to trust him again where she is concerned even tho he swears that it is all over now!
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 4:09pm

Welcome to the board nadia25,


I think you have plenty of reason not to trust him since he has broken up with you several times because she didn't you the fact that you were dating. Well the fact is, they are divorced and he can date whoever he wants. He shouldn't be letting him influence such things in his life. Plus the text messages you found suggest something more is going on between the two of you. I think you need to confront him about the text messages. He may get mad at you, but that will probably be because he will be trying to get the pressure off of himself and onto you.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 4:18pm
Welcome to the board cheesysquaw and thanks for participating.





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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 4:29pm

Welcome to the board nadia25,


Can you trust him? No.

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 5:44pm

Don't trust him because he is obviously seeing his ex gf again.Now if they had had kids together...yes...there would be a reason to still keep in touch with the ex ....so do they share any kids?


I'm sorry because I'm sure you love him very much BUT for the ex to be texting him 'I love you'..that is VERY inappropriate don't you think?AND ask yourself this question?WHY would the exgf feel the need to text your bf those 3 words now?Maybe things have been going on between the 2 for awhile now inorder for those works to be texted to him..understand?


Wish you the best.