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| Mon, 08-11-2008 - 11:33am |
Hi I am new to this and need some advice...I have been dating my bf for a little over a year...at the beginning of the realtionship we had a great sex life...no complaints from my end...I happen to have a high sex drive...then about 6 months into our relationship I find out about the porn....FYI i kind of new his ex that said that he was obsessed with porn...for some reason I didnt believe it....we are both 27 and I felt taht we were both mature...I was wrong apparetly....I woke up one night to hear porn coming from the bathroom....i kinda just let it slide as a guy thing....then i realized that eveytime I left and or went into the shower he was looking at and masterbating to porn....I started to feel really bad...about myself...about the lack of sex we were having...etc....I mean we would start to fool around and then I would go down on him for awhile and then make a move for sex and he would come before we had sex! I mean we went from 3-4 times a week to maybe once every two weeks/month....i was so frustrated that I cionfronted him....and he was like its a guy thing we all do it!! and i said well then why arent we having sex anymore...he said sex isnt the most important thing in a reltionship...well he stopped for awhile(because i forbid him to use my comp for porn) and we had a little more sex but not much....well needless to say we moved in together after a year and I find out that he is looking at porn again and using his cell phone to do it!!! I confronted him again....ad he seems to stop for awhile but then he just does it again....i feel like I am getting a complex!!! we NEVER have sex anymore....welll he gets off from BJ's that I think might lead to sex but NEVER do!!! I just dont know what to do anymore???? Is it normal for men to do this??? He says its a stress reliever.....I said how would you feel if I did it...he was like you have to do what you have to do....his attitude for everything!!!!! I think he suffers from depression as well could that have something to do with it?? Please Help!!!

Welcome to the board fungal1210,
No not all guys do this and the ones that do, not all do it to this extreme.
I woke up one night to hear porn coming from the bathroom
How do you "hear" porn coming from the bathroom?