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| Mon, 09-10-2007 - 12:27pm |
Dr. Shoshanna,
I was in a seven year relationship with a wonderful man. We have had our problems, I have left him three times, but alway have known I love him, I just didn't know how to tell him or express what I was feeling. The last time I left I knew that I loved him deeply, but didn't know how to express myself, I started reading articles and reading books to help with my emotional wall that was built up from years of control from my parents (depriving). I love him so and have recently been able to show him and for the first time in my life it feels good to be able to express myself. Heres my problem, recently he told me that he is seeing another women, though he has said that their is no commitment with her and that they are just friends, we have also started to re-build our relationship which I thought was going wonderfully, I found out today that his relationship with this other women is developing more seriously. When I asked him he has said that he doesn't know what to do, he knows that he loves me, and doesn't want to hurt this other womens feelings and really doesn't want to stop seeing her? Am I being stupid? If he tells me that he wants to pursue our relationship but still see her as friends, can this be possible? My heart is hurting and I really not sure what to do. Can you help me, please?

Welcome to the board sweetraven39,
::When I asked him he has said that he doesn't know what to do, he knows that he loves me, and doesn't want to hurt this other womens feelings and really doesn't want to stop seeing her? Am I being stupid? If he tells me that he wants to pursue our relationship but still see her as friends, can this be possible?
::No, I don't think it is
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Welcome to the board sweetraven39,
It sounds to me that he wants his cake and eat it too....sadly, he wants to keep both of you in his life until he decides. That's not fair to either of you.
I am the man referenced in the Sweetraven39's dilemma. I have posted an article named "What to do. HELP" Your feedback considering both perspectives is greatly appreciated. Thank you for your concern.