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| Sat, 10-09-2004 - 2:26pm |
hi i have a big problem with my two year old little boys father. We have been together for three years, my little boy will be two in jan. the problem began when the father decided he was going to begin a career that took him away from home almost every night, we began to argue and fight alot more and when he was at home it was stressful for all of us. One night he decided to move out about three months ago, he took all our money since he was the one who worked and he took our only means of transportation we had two and he took both vehicles, so i could not get a job. he is trying to teach me a lesson he said. well at first he didnt want to work anything out and didnt even want to talk to me, but now he calls and begs me to move to another town with him and he has come to see us but only to get me to move there with him. when he comes here to my house he will stay here for a day or two but then he always has to leave again he leaves me no money and no way to get around still yet he says he loves me and he wants us to be together there of coure. i feel lost, alone and very confused. I want the best for our son i really do but i am scared to trust this man again, even as i try to forgive him and want to make things better i just feel so depressed and i dont know what to do. I find that i get angry with my little baby and i think i take out my frustrations out on him, i know this is wrong and i have to stop i dont knopw what to do and i just need help. if any one can offer me any suggestions, i dont have alot of family or friends in this area to give me support.

Pianoguy suggests you contact the social service and free legal assistance groups in your town. The man who 'fathered your son' is obviously "a control freak"---and despite his pleas to get you to join him, I'd stay put if I were you. He's not stable...nor does he give a damn about your welfare or his child's. Why put yourself in a graver situation than you're currently in?
If you HONESTLY want help to get yourself out of the mess you're in...it's OUT THERE! But you need to make the effort.
Pianoguy
Your child has a right to eat. That his father would abandon him and cut off support should tell you everything you need to know.
I have to say I agree with Pianoguy and ivdarian - please get help from your family to get an attorney and get child support in place. If one of the cars is in your name only, report it stolen. Please help yourself. There are resources avaiable. DO NOT MOVE to be with this man as he is controlling and will only further isolate you from any possible help and support if you move.
Carrie