Can a past relationship be reconciled?

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Can a past relationship be reconciled?
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 1:34pm
Do you think it is possible to reconcile with your ex after a divorce? If so, what do you think would be the first steps to getting started to fixing the past and move past all the pain and suffering that we both have caused to one another? We both have talked about maybe there is a furture for us because we still love each other even after the divorce but honestly we really don't know. I am the one asking for advice to help myself to get started to fixing the past and making it better. I want to make this work!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 2:46pm
Some people have done it, but I don't think they have done it without couple's counseling to heal the issues that caused them to separate in the first place.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 1:32am

hi and hugs


anything is possible. it would depend on why you got the divorce in the first place. lets say, what was the *main reason* and what were the *underlying circumstances*. it would depend on why you want to get back together - is it because you are "used to" each other? is it because you are afraid of whats out there? the kids? money? how much time past since you separated, and since you were divorced? who initiated the divorce? and who is the one who wants to get back together?


i think that IF (and its a big IF) you were going to do this, its not enuf to say , but you NEED PROFESSIONAL help and do not even BEGIN to attempt this on your own.


there is a board here for divorce, maybe the people there have more specific help: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlsmartdivor