Can a person with anger issues change their ways?
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|Tue, 08-14-2012 - 12:22am|
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we've broken it off twice within that time, partly because he has anger issues and it's hard for me to deal with. He's never physically hurt me or thrown/punched things for that matter, but when he's mad he will yell and scream and say whatever he can to emotionally hurt me. He also gets angry over the smallest things, to the point where I have to carefully word what I say to him about certain things out of fear he'll get mad. I even get severe anxiety when he starts to raise his voice, even if he's not getting angry about something.
I told him I needed to take a break and clear my head, and now he's telling me that he's going to be more patient with me, that he'll start walking away from arguments instead of blowing up at me, that he'll keep his temper in check. I want to believe him, because there are so many good qualities in him and in our relationship that I'd miss if I wasn't with him.
I just wonder what's going to make this time different than all the other times he said he'd change--I don't want to waste any more time if things are going to go right back to how they were again. He thinks he can control it on his own and doesn't need counselling, but do you think he can really keep his anger in check for good?