can this relationship be saved or not?

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Registered: 07-02-2008
can this relationship be saved or not?
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Sat, 07-19-2008 - 10:33pm
Edited.


Edited 7/21/2008 10:03 am ET by lightray7777
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 07-19-2008 - 11:13pm

Welcome to the board lightray777,


Sounds like you are exclusive but not dating at all.

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Sun, 07-20-2008 - 1:03pm
If you want to continue to be unhappy in the name of love then stay with him. If you want to be a happy person then figure out why you are attracted to guys who treat you this way and find someone who is a gentleman.
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Sun, 07-20-2008 - 1:48pm

You mentioned you were good friends for a year prior to dating. Has his personality changed since then, or has he always treated you like this? Or, now that you're dating has he become 'comfortable' and lazy?

As a 'good friend' you must have learned about him and his ways. If he's changed drastically I think you need to talk about your relationship expectations. Perhaps now that you're dating you're expectations of him have gone up and he doesn't sound comfortable with it.