Can relationship be saved w/trust issues

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2006
Can relationship be saved w/trust issues
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Wed, 12-19-2007 - 11:59am
Trust is HUGE in a relationship.....and I trust my guy with SOME things. I trust him in my house and with my dogs. I know he'd never hurt me physically....or steal from me....or damage my possessions. But...there are things I KNOW he lies about. It bothers me. How big a deal should I make it ? Am I blowing things out of proportion ? Am I being too sensitive ? He isn't always up front about money issues....because he never has ANY money and he is always in debt over his head. I have good credit and stay on top of my bills. I try to help and tell him it is ok....we will work it out together. He continues to lie about money stuff. He recently lied to me about where he got some $ and I started crying hysterically and told him I didn't know if I could forgive him. Am I going over board here ? I don't know what to do......should I keep trying to make this relationship work......do I move on ?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 1:31pm

Welcome to the board elfling,


Have long have the two of you been together?


The thing with this lying to you is that you are going to start to wonder if he is lying to you about even more things. Money issues are one of the major things that cause problems in relationships/marriages.


Would he be willing to meet with a financial advisor or maybe get a second job to help himself get caught up?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2006
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 1:59pm

We've been together just over a year. I am REALLY good with money. He has asked me to help him. I can get him out of debt if he follows what I tell him. In addition - he is willing to help himself. He is working extra hours at work to get overtime $.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2007
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 2:37pm

Why is he always out of money?