Can someone HELP me understand??
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Can someone HELP me understand??
| Mon, 09-13-2004 - 3:48pm |
My husband likes his porn, he has enough of it on the computer. I've asked him to share it with me but he never does, I've tried to talk to him about it but he is never willing. I just want to understand this, It makes me feel insecure about our relationship and I don't like that. Part of me understands that this has nothing to do with me or our relationship. I am very open and not the least bit prude. We used to share this kind of thing but now it's just not like that anymore. Can someone explain this to me in non male terms because I sure as heck don't get it.
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He must have accessed something that added spyware to my computer so whenever I opened IE I was getting porno pop up's. He didn't deny that it was his fault but of course I had to fix it.
Back to the point, this just doesn't seem to end. He claims that men can watch porn without becoming excited and while I believe that might be true sometimes because some porn is so funny you just can't help but laugh at it, I don't think that is always the case. He has this thing about girl on girl porn. Now, before you even mention that he might not think I am interested he knows that isn't totally true because I am bi. and he knows it. It's been some time since I've had a girlfriend and mostly that is because my family is more important to me than going out to the clubs to meet people etc etc. I do miss it but I am also very satisfied with my husband and he knows that too.
No matter how many times we talk about this we get nowhere. Last time I wanted to talk about it I decided to email him. Like I told him I didn't want to fight about it, I just want to understand why he feels the need to do this. I explained to him that it made me feel insecure like I am not enough for him but he never replied to my email : (
I know he loves me and we are very happy with the exception of this issue. I am very lucky that he is a good man and a very loving father so I've never really pushed too hard with this because I figure it could be worse but I don't understand why he can't help me to understand or be a part of this with him.